Wisdom, Warmth and wonderment

Each woman brings her own uniqueness to the circle. Each has a gift, a talent that is her trademark. Welcoming in diversity and humility. To walk on your journey as you walk through life will bring you closer to your goal and more joy in your day. You are a midwife who is in creation. A midwife under construction. You are important in your journey. Always be willing to learn and always keep breathing.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Trust..... it IS what is takes to be a midwife.

Women must find within themselves the ability to trust what they and their body and baby know to give birth. For some this is easier than others. For some it comes as a huge milestone of life and when they get there, it is an amazing triumph with tears of accomplishment. Sometimes even we as midwives cry for the gratitude that we were there to support and hold space for this woman to learn the trust within her.

We as midwives must trust too. To trust means to know what is the safe parameters and to support the process of a woman so far as she and the baby are safe. This is why you learn to know how to assess what is safe and what is not. When to help a woman move forward and when she is moving forward all on her own.

Patience is important in being a midwife and so is wisdom to know when too much patience may lead to an out come less favorable. Patience can bring a baby down into the pelvis and wisdom can ensure it comes down safely. Women need help to be patient and persistant sometimes. You are the wise woman that reminds her of the path she has choosen to go on especially when she is deviating from that and is looking to you to guide her back. Patience is also the wise woman who waits and does not intervine when the mother is on her path and it is working and you must just wait. The baby will come.

I want to impart to you the ability to make wise decisions when to wait, when to be patient and when to give guidance to a woman who needs it. Listen to her, listen to your wisdom, listen to what you have learned and make a good call. When you do, the baby will come, mom will feel empowered and there will be positive outcomes.

2 comments:

cambridgeclan said...

Kaleem, You have hidden blogs:) Happy birthing!

Lisa said...

So true. I love your writing Kaleem.