Every woman has her journey through birth. Some celebrate it and others walk a path of great healing. When a woman has been born by C/section she has no memory of birth and may have to traverse this uncharted trail with few road signs. Birth is imprinted in us. Whether we have been born with nature, drugs or surgery. As a midwife it is helpful to understand who a woman is and how she was birthed. You can be a guide to her along her path without telling her where to go but giving her guidance. You can not lead her but you can walk by her side reminding her that she is on the right path.
Some women can have a birth that they find simply Amazing to experience. Even for us as midwives it can be an amazing experience with them No matter how a woman births she heals the past, creates the future and becomes the very best of herself. You are there to hold space for her to experience her own truth so long as it is serving her and she gets to the baby safely. Be good listeners and listen to the unspoken words that need to be voiced. Encourage her to voice her feelings when a birth is struggling to find its rudder.
One mom asked me today if I am every afraid of birth? I said no, I trust birth and it shows me that, but then birth is not about me, it is about her. Two babies later and she finally trusts birth. Both born at home.
